How do you feel about yourself? How about your dyslexia? For adult dyslexics, managing the negative emotions surrounding dyslexia can affect all aspects of their life, from personal relationships to professional development. In our recent Hive Only Deep Dive event, we explored where the negative emotions come from, how it holds you back, and most importantly, how to overcome them. We're sharing a lite version of that talk focusing on shifting your mindset and developing positive coping strategies that will help you learn to love your dyslexia, see its value and achieve your goals.
The Origins of Negative Feelings for Adults Because of Dyslexia?
While every person with dyslexia is different, there are some common themes regarding the birth of our negative feelings. Usually, there was a kid who made fun of you, a teacher who encouraged you NOT to reach for your dreams or a host of low grades.
Over time those interactions lead to a fear of failure/criticism, general social anxiety, lack of confidence, and fear of asking for the help you need. The feelings from there compound, and over time you start to believe you "can't," are not worthy, or just need to work harder.
How to Overcome the Negative Feelings Surrounding Adult Dyslexia?
Getting over the negative feelings surrounding your dyslexia is not easy (we still struggle), but it can be done. While not an easy road, the answer is deceptively simple; you must reframe your thought process, value your strengths, and create systems that work for you.
Ending the I Can't Mentality
In our 1 on 1 coaching calls, we hear, "I can't do ___" Our response is always why not? Who says? What is holding you back? After some chatting, it always comes down to one thing, you "can do ____"; you need to do things differently.
To do this, consider all the times you succeeded because of your dyslexia. The next time you have a mental "I can't" moment, revert to what helped you succeed. Focus on the things you CAN do, and have a clear understanding of your dyslexic strengths.
Seeing the Value of Dyslexia
We will preach to anyone who will listen to us the strengths of dyslexia, but no one believes us until they find theirs and become intimately familiar. One of the most important steps to living with less dyslexic struggle is knowing what you excel at.
Finding your strengths isn't just about knowing, "I'm great at solving problems," but understanding the value of your skills. Knowing that you can do things naturally that others struggle with (hello, narrative reasoning), then highlighting that to others around you. Actively trying to put yourself in situations where your strengths can shine.
A Drive to Break Bad Habits and Change
Change is hard. If you want to have a different relationship with your dyslexia, then you HAVE to have a genuine desire to change your mindset. You are ultimately building a habit that includes a positive attitude and confidence in who you are.
Your goal is to develop positive self-talk, confidence in your strengths, and simple systems to help you manage your dyslexia. As we said, this is a challenging mindset shift, and it will take constant work to avoid falling back into old patterns—a friendly reminder to ask for help when needed.
You Got THIS!
Understanding where your negative feelings come from and overcoming them is achievable for any adult dyslexic. Focus on ending your negative mentality, seeing the value of your dyslexia, and breaking your bad habits. You can change your relationship with your dyslexia; it might just take some time, be patient, and ask for support when needed.